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How to be a Gotcha War Winner

How to be a Gotcha War Winner

What is a Gotcha War?  Any argument where the other person tries to make you look like a fool, so s/he seeems virtuous.


I learned about Gotcha Wars as a foster parent caring for troubled teens.  Many were dedicated Gotcha Warriors.  Why? The cartoon says it all.

Sad feeling fact: bullying usually begins with feeling weak or bad about yourself.

Second sad feeling fact:  bullying feels powerful.


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Stay Safe, But Take More Risks

Stay Safe, But Take More Risks

Some risk takers over-do it. Why? Fear drives them. Hit a balance. Scared? Do a reality check. No physical danger? Plunge ahead. Danger: Call 911.

When to call 911

Emotions start in ancient and primitive fears connected to dangerous life and limb threats.  Important then, but overrated today.

For many all fears sound like 911 emergency sirens. Not knowing the difference keeps you from doing what is possible and…

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Indulge more by denial

Indulge more by denial

For the Jews of the world, Passover calls for indulging a bit less on a few things we are allowed to enjoy 357 days of the year.  Different indulgences abound.

Matza tasting like cardboard is not a plague.

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Joking aside the easiest Passover indulgence at our house remains spreading sheets of matzo with Kosher for Passover cream cheese and fruit preserves. Next on the list comes Matzo Brie (a French Toast like…

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Freedom for all

This is Passover week. Passover celebrates the first recorded emancipation from slavery.  Whatever your religion working for freedom for all matters most.

Moses as politician

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When we limit freedom to those we cherish, we enslave our hearts and souls. When we are silent in the face of oppression, we oppress all others.   Only when all work to protect liberty for all will there be…

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Put off all you can except what matters

Put off all you can except what matters

Procrastination is the art of remembering what matters.

Put off all you can as long as you can.  Worry not as what needs to get done, gets done.

Put off all you can as long as you can. Worry not as what needs to get done, gets done. Thank you collegeessayorganizer.com for this image

This quick EFTI post is based on this Daily Prompt: Wasted Days and Wasted Nights  Tell us your tried and true techniques for focusing when that deadline looms and you need to get work done. In other…

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Make my day; let me make you laugh.

Make my day; let me make you laugh.

Smiles boost #EmotionalIntelligence.  Making strangers smile or laugh is part of Practicing Kindness, one of my Daily Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises.


Daily Prompt: Make Me Smile If you’re feeling blah, what is the one thing you do that you can count on to put a smile on your face?


Become a comedian.

How to become a comedian


I can’t tell you how much I love shopping. Not for…

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Me Jealous? Sadly, Yes.

Me Jealous? Sadly, Yes.

Daily Prompt: Green-Eyed Lady We all get jealous from time to time — what wakes the green-eyed monster for you?

Those who are part of our success are often left out of the rewards we reap.

Thank you Stu’s views.

I chose this cartoon because success is never a one person show.

I have big dreams, work hard, but have had no monetary success when it comes to Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. – what I think of as my third child.  What wakens the Green Eyed Monster in me?  The…

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Thoughtful Thursday - Honoring Aida Cruz, not Bill Gates

Thoughtful Thursday – Honoring Aida Cruz, not Bill Gates

Thinking about what matters is an Emotional Fitness Exercise.   This post is about giving from the heart, not from the pocket book.

Who gives to charity chart. The poor do more.

A Torah discussion of giving from Aish.com: Metzora(Leviticus 14-15) ”You Think I’m Bad?!…”

If he is poor and his means are not sufficient… (Lev. 14:21)

The offerings of a wealthy and poor man are not equal – they are only required to bring offerings according to…

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Turn Back, Stop at Fifty

Turn Back, Stop at Fifty

Today’s WordPress prompt asked if you could turn back the hands of time where would you go.  Most  old folks want to keep our wisdom while moving ahead..

Why did I decide to become an old lady. .

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Emotional fitness training Thoughts and tIP

Teachers lie: growing old is not a choice. Nor is going back.  The best one can do is be grateful for your now,  cultivate as many good memories as you can, and…

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Winning the sanity battle

Winning the sanity battle

Quaker saying: “The whole world is crazy, except thee and me.”  Actually, thee and me is crazy lots of the time also,

Are you sane or insane?

I was a mental health professional and for nearly 15 years I directed mental health crisis teams before, during, and after 9/11.  The primary question my teams had to answer was “Does this person need to be in protective custody?”  Not that we said that: the politically correct…

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