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Teaching hate? Much too easy.

Teaching hate? Much too easy.

What song keeps you going in times of trouble.? This Summer of Hate calls forth this one to me. Reminds me to teach love, not hate.  #emotionalintelligence tips

You've got to be taught to hate.

This post inspired by this Word Press Daily Prompt:Music Marker We all have songs that remind us of specific periods and events in our lives. Twenty years from now, which song will remind you of the summer of 2014?   See the above. Em…

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When My Uncertainty Ends, I Can Shout: “Shut up.”

When My Uncertainty Ends, I Can Shout: “Shut up.”

Uncertainty drives much behavior. Knowing the uncertainties in any situation increases your #emotionalintelligence and helps you act with greater wisdom.

Annoying people: those who talk and don't let me get a word in edgewise


Today’s Word Press Prompt provides a good opportunity to look at how uncertainty controls even mundane behaviors.  Here it is:

DAILY PROMPT    Middle Seat: It turns out that your neighbor on the…

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The more we know about what drives us,  the stronger our #emotionalintelligence. Uncertainty drives much behavior.

Uncertainty rules

Emotional Fitness Thoughts and Tips

Guru and retired Harvard Researcher Jerome Kagan centered much of his research on how uncertainty twists our thinking, lets emotions rule, and is a major source of anger, fear, depression or despair.

He points out that much of an ‘infant’s time is…

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Who do you hate?  Where did you learn that hatred. Hatred destroys your heart, so improve your #emotionalintelligence and learn to love even those you hate.

You've got to be taught to hate.

emotional fitness THOUGHTS AND TIPS

Human nature is such that we fear what is different.  If that fear gets linked to  personal internal hurts , hatred brews. Here are five common  examples of what I mean by internal hurts.

  1. You judge…

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Strong feelings? How strong?

Strong feelings? How strong?

#EmotionalIntelligence depends on the ability to both recognize what you are feeling and to keep tabs on that feeling’s strength.

Emotional Fitness Training and #Emotional Intelligence explained.

Here’s another feeling thermometer:

#emotionalintelligence blog post #anger management feeling thermometer

This is available free as a digital download Poster Coach at the EFTI Store. Printing it up and posting where you will see it throughout your day will boost your awareness of what you are feeling.


Tip one:Any…

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Sexy daydreams (fictional encounters)

Sexy daydreams (fictional encounters)

Even while  pushing 80, I fantasize encounters out side of the bonds of marriage; in those encounters no need to worry about safe sex rules which are:

ready for sex postser.Actually I made the above poster for parents of teens. But the rules apply to everyone, so I am posting it here and on my Parents Are People Too Blog.

Thank you WordPress Daily Prompt for making today’s post so easy.  That prompt: Go down the…

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Just War in the Middle East or just war?

Just War in the Middle East or just war?

Whose actions are justified? An Israel speaks out.  And yes, he is biased. But so are you.  First a quote to think about. Then some #emotionalintelligence ideas.

just war

What my Israeli Facebook Friend says about the current state of war in the Middle East.

AN OPEN LETTER TO THE WORLD   Dear World,I understand that you are upset by us, here in Israel.

Indeed, it appears that you are quite upset, even…

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Please pray from your heart for peace.

Please pray from your heart for peace.

For all struggling with the horror of war in the Middle East, pray for peace. Please add the name Sam Hollander to your prayers.


From the Rabbis at Aish Denver. A prayer request.

Our thoughts and prayers are with our brothers and sisters in Israel, who are in a state of great potential danger; both the civilians who are in the cross hairs of terrorists, and members of the Israeli army, who…

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Lots of us have mental or physical challenges.  I struggle with growing deafness. Our family pet recently qualified as a Hearing-aid Service Dog.

Service dogs add support

Getting Punky certified means he can go with us  anywhere the public goes including on our laps on an airplane or any other source of public transportation. Moreover, no one can charge us extra because he is with us.  He flies free, he sleeps in hotels…

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As the saying goes “There are no atheists in foxholes.”  When trapped and facing destruction, we ask for survival with all our hearts. We pray.

cartoon about unaswered prayers

My mother was more of an atheist than a believer, but throughout the day she often prayed.  Her prayers?  “God willing.” “God knows.”  God protect the young or foolish.”

These were often uttered when life or people were frustrating her beyond her normal…

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